THE HOWS OF CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM

Learn how to give feedback that motivates improvement while maintaining trust and respect.

Overview:

The “Hows of Constructive Criticism” video breaks down how to give and receive feedback in a way that strengthens relationships, builds trust, and supports professional growth. In mentorship, leadership, and team settings—especially across cultures—criticism can either be a tool for improvement or a source of conflict. This video helps viewers develop the skill of delivering thoughtful, respectful feedback that others can act on, and shows how to receive it with openness and curiosity.

✅ 1. Lead with Intention, Not Emotion

Start by asking:

“What is my goal in giving this feedback?”

Constructive criticism should help, not hurt. Focus on:

  • Improvement, not punishment

  • Observations, not assumptions

  • Solutions, not just problems

Be mindful of your tone and timing—feedback lands better when emotions are calm.

🧠 Key takeaway: Good feedback starts with good intentions.

💡 2. Be Specific and Action-Oriented

Vague feedback like “Do better” or “Be more professional” doesn’t help.

Instead, be clear:

  • What exactly happened?

  • Why does it matter?

  • What can be done differently?

Example:

“In yesterday’s meeting, you interrupted twice. Let’s try using a hand signal to avoid overlap.”

🎯 Specific + actionable = useful.

💬 3. Use the “Feedback Sandwich” (But Use It Wisely)

The “sandwich” method (positive → critique → positive) helps soften delivery—but don’t overdo it.

Use it when:

  • You want to preserve motivation

  • You’re giving feedback to someone new or sensitive to criticism

But always keep it honest. Don’t dilute the core message.

🧠 Real-world tip: Focus on genuine praise, not just filler compliments.

🧍‍♀️ 4. Consider Cultural and Individual Differences

How people give and receive feedback can vary by culture and personality.

Some prefer directness; others value diplomacy. Learn what your mentee or colleague responds to best.

🌏 Cross-cultural Ment-er Insight:
In high-context cultures, indirect feedback is often more respectful. In low-context cultures, clarity and directness are valued.

Adapt your style—but don’t lose your message.

🧠 5. Receive Feedback with Openness

Giving feedback is important—but receiving it well is just as powerful.

Tips:

  • Listen fully before reacting

  • Don’t take it personally—take it as data

  • Ask clarifying questions: “Can you share an example?” or “What would better look like?”

Reflect, then decide what to change.

🧘 Growth comes from curiosity, not defensiveness.

📌 Final Thoughts & Takeaways:

Constructive criticism is a cornerstone of growth—but it takes practice, empathy, and clarity.

Remember:

  • Focus on helping, not hurting

  • Make feedback specific, kind, and timely

  • Adjust for different cultures and personalities

  • Welcome feedback as a gift, not a threat

In mentorship and career journeys, your ability to give and receive feedback can shape your relationships and your success.

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